I AM SHOL

I’m learning a lot by reading some good books and by observing my own behavior and where I can work on myself for others. I do believe we are living to help others, which in return, does help us anyway. Not in a way where you do it deliberately, but you genuinely want to give with no expectations of return. From my current thoughts while sketching just know, I yelled out to my son that he was handsome but it dawned on me that complimenting isn’t enough. I’m not paying attention to him and giving him my undivided attention, but I’m filling in that “space” by saying a compliment. I feel like this was a click of my own behavior with others. I need to maybe just compliment less and say nothing and when I do say something, I need to not just say but do more. I get caught up with seeing what people have and complimenting it and I forget the “action” part of it. The meaningful part of the “interaction”… to think of it, this is my biggest drawback at work. The semi empty compliments to strike up a conversation, the getting to know the client, but… I fall short. I don’t get deeper into their wants of walking into the store. Is it cause I’m insecure to ask? Or, is it because I genuinely don’t care? I guess this is where I’m stuck. What is the service that I genuinely provide for others? Looks like I finally got to the question after a long tangent.